Separations are a difficult, often lengthy process that places a heavy emotional burden on both partners. The way in which a separation is handled can help to contain the extent of the stress and the negative consequences of a separation. If both partners separate by mutual agreement, the process can even be quite simple. There is little conflict and most of the time, after the first shock is over, the separation is characterized by understanding.
After all, both partners wanted the separation. However, such cases are very rare.
The greatest discrepancy is in couples when one of the partners wants to separate but the other does not. A rollercoaster of emotions develops on both sides. Grief is the main emotion that prevails, but other emotions such as anger or hatred over rejection can also prevail.
It is not uncommon for such separations to extend over a longer period of time. Communication is often disturbed in the beginning. One partner feels that he/she has misinterpreted the signals of the other partner. The other partner is confused and no longer knows how to behave.
In two-pair relationships, the separation only has a direct effect on the partners. It is more difficult when you have a family and children. Then often doubts arise whether the relationship should really be ended for the benefit of the children. In such a case the question arises whether the relationship can still be saved. Many people then come into a dichotomy. In a couple counseling they can be helped to create clear conditions. Is there still hope for us as a couple? Does it make sense to keep trying, or is a separation really the most sensible thing? Even if this should be the case, a separation counseling can help you to create a good communication basis, which will simplify the process of separation in the further course.
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