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Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling

Couples therapy for open relationships

Open relationships require clear communication, trust, and a sensitive balance between freedom and closeness. Our therapy provides you with a safe space to discuss challenges, clarify boundaries, and strengthen your relationship – individually and sustainably.

The unique dynamics of open relationships

Open relationships allow couples to shape their partnership according to their own ideas and to maintain additional emotional or sexual connections alongside the primary relationship. However, this type of relationship requires a high level of trust, communication, and clear agreements.

Although open relationships can be particularly fulfilling, they also bring specific challenges. Jealousy, insecurities, or unspoken expectations often arise. Our couples therapists support you in recognizing these dynamics and addressing them productively. In a safe space, you can openly discuss your feelings, desires, and boundaries to resolve conflicts, create harmony in the relationship, learn to manage the challenges of distance, and develop long-term perspectives for your partnership.

Do you have questions about

Couples Therapy?

If you have any questions, feel free to call us or send us an email. We will be happy to advise you in a free initial consultation.

Communication and trust as keys to success

Open relationships offer the possibility of great freedom, but they also come with special responsibilities. They always present a challenge because they are based on clear, honest, and respectful communication. Only in this way can trust and mutual appreciation grow. Regular conversations and the openness to share personal needs, desires, and fears are essential to keep the relationship in balance. Without a stable foundation, it is hardly possible to build a basis of trust and develop the security of being able to rely completely on one’s partner. That is why it is important to maintain fear- and judgment-free communication within the relationship, so that the connection continues over time and distance between partners does not develop.

The balance between individual freedom and the shared nurturing of the relationship is often further influenced by professional commitments, children, or other factors. When couples open the space for additional sexual partners, this requires a special level of mindfulness and mutual understanding. At the same time, it requires a willingness to continuously adapt to changing needs. Our experienced therapists support you in finding ways to maintain emotional closeness and stability, in order to create a fulfilling and sustainable partnership.

A safe space for growth and stability in your relationship

In a protected and nonjudgmental space, you have the opportunity to openly discuss your concerns and challenges. Together, we develop solutions tailored to your individual needs. We place special emphasis on building trust, resolving communication blocks, and stabilizing your relationship – regardless of the chosen relationship model.

Our couples counseling is your reliable partner in creating a relationship built on clarity, respect, and mutual support, forming a stable and fulfilling foundation for your future.

What sources of conflict can arise in an open relationship?

  • Unclear rules: Boundaries are not clearly defined or not respected
  • Imbalance in experience: One partner has more experience with open relationships, which can lead to insecurities
  • Emotional attachment to other partners: Feelings for third parties can affect the relationship
  • Changing needs: For example, if one partner longs for more exclusivity
  • Sexual health: Concerns regarding safe sex
  • Feelings of neglect: One partner feels less important or neglected

Start your journey to a stronger

Partnership

In a non-binding initial session at Couples Counseling Cologne, we take the time to discuss your individual concerns and challenges in the partnership. Together, we develop initial approaches to find new ways toward more harmony, understanding, and mutual trust. Our experienced therapists provide you with a safe space where you can openly talk about your relationship and develop solutions specifically tailored to your needs. Let us help you strengthen your partnership and create a stable foundation for your shared future – start your journey to a more fulfilling relationship now.

Our Couples Therapists

We support you in overcoming personal and shared challenges, resolving blockages, and building trust. Together, we create the foundation for stability and fulfilling relationships.

Couples Therapist
Karen Zettelmeyer

M.Sc.
Claudia Brinkmann

Dipl. Psych.
Ricarda Christine

Dipl. Social Worker
Michaela Etscheid-Garnitz

M.A. Social Pedagogue
Lara Wieczorek

Book your couples therapy appointment now

A relationship crisis does not arise overnight. However, once it occurs, there is usually a desire to find a shared path as quickly as possible. Couples therapy offers great potential to emerge from the crisis stronger together.

Book your couples therapy appointment directly online now in our booking calendar.

Couples Therapy for Polyamorous Relationships

More than one love at the same time? Polyamory describes a relationship concept in which multiple people live in consensual and equal partnerships. What challenges and opportunities does this entail?

Couples Therapy for Long-distance Relationships

Maintaining a partnership across physical distances requires special communication strategies and trust. What ways are there to maintain closeness and intimacy despite geographical separation?

FAQs

How do the couples therapist and the couple work together?

When starting couples therapy, make sure you choose a competent couples therapist: your therapist should be willing to talk transparently about therapy methods. You both need to feel comfortable and feel that they are loyal to you as a couple. In couples therapy in Cologne, both parties should always be able to communicate openly with each other.

My partner suggests couples counseling – but can’t my friends help just as well?

Friends can be good conversation partners. However, they lack the distance and neutrality needed to provide effective, solution-oriented help in a relationship crisis. The knowledge and experience of a couples therapist with years of experience are invaluable. Talk as openly as possible about your relationship. Your couples counselor will help you communicate your needs in a loyal and objective manner, while being honest with yourself and your partner.

How do we find the right therapist?

It is important that you feel comfortable with your therapist. During the first session, you can find out whether the chemistry is right and whether the therapeutic approach suits your needs.

What if we live apart or are in a long-distance relationship?

Even in a long-distance relationship or when living separately, couples therapy can help. We offer online sessions to provide support regardless of your location.

How do you find the right type of relationship for yourself?

The right type of relationship depends on individual needs, values, and expectations. It is important to know yourself and your own desires and to openly discuss the different models with your partner in order to find a suitable solution that is fulfilling for both.

Can couples therapy help even if we are not in a monogamous relationship?

Yes, couples therapy can provide support regardless of the type of relationship. Whether an open relationship, polyamory, or another dynamic partnership, what matters is not the model but how communication, trust, and shared values are managed. We are happy to help you better understand your own needs, clarify boundaries, and find solutions for challenges that can arise in any relationship.