Intensive Training Weekend for Couples

Learning to live love in a way that works day-to-day is an art that each of us must first learn. Ideally, with the person by your side!

In everyday life, it naturally happens that we start to feel like we have come to a standstill. It often begins gradually. In the past, there were long conversations, shared plans, plenty of time to engage with each other, to make time for one another, and to listen. At some point, we long again for that unique feeling of being in love. Today, much revolves around work, household duties, or the children, and eventually “We need to talk” turns into “I don’t have time for that right now.” We begin to wonder whether this relationship is truly the right framework for our individual growth. Emotional as well as sexual blockages develop, which we do not know how to resolve on our own.

Small disagreements remain unspoken, turn into misunderstandings, and then into accusations. You love each other, but you talk past one another. Perhaps the same points of conflict keep recurring, never really being resolved. One person withdraws, the other fights for attention, or both remain silent because they do not know how to reach each other anymore. Sometimes it hurts especially when, in crucial moments, you realize that your partner is no longer really listening or when closeness suddenly feels strange, even when lying next to each other in bed. Perhaps a feeling of indifference has simply crept in: you function together, but you can no longer truly BE with each other.

There are moments in a relationship when you realize: It cannot go on like this. But in everyday life, there is hardly any time to really deal with it.

Many couples feel the need to change something in their relationship. Some couples seek support through couples therapy or couples counseling. During intensive couples training, ideas are developed that need to be integrated into the relationship. This often fails because everyday structures are strong and rigid. As a result, the couple has hardly any space to develop changes.

Within the framework of the multi-day “Intensive Couples Therapy Training,” both partners learn to focus on themselves, on each other, and on their togetherness. They remain in close contact with one another the entire time, allowing the “we” to find space again. This enables a deeper level of mutual understanding. In addition, alternating between individual and couple sessions during this intensive weekend can also allow for the inclusion of very personal topics, contributing to a deeper understanding of oneself. This framework greatly accelerates the process of couples therapy in Cologne.

The seminar is suitable for couples who…

4 couple sessions (each 90 minutes) + individual session (optional)

The times for couples therapy are individually adapted to your needs so that you can plan your visit to Cologne as you wish. Your time together should above all be: stress-free, creative, and productive. The couples therapy weekend concludes with a final session in which the new experiences are consolidated.

Optionally, a follow-up session takes place after approximately 4-6 weeks.

Before you know where you want to go, you have to understand where you currently are. Are there certain patterns that keep repeating? Where does the relationship feel stable, and where is it crumbling? Together, we look at what is working well and what needs to change.

Many couples lose sight of what actually connects them in everyday life. Which values do we share? Where do we want to go as a couple? And what does a fulfilling relationship mean for both of us?

Some discussions go round in circles, some hurt feelings simmer in the background. What is really behind frequent points of contention? How can we understand each other better without every conflict escalating or leading to silence?

Every relationship has its strengths, which often get overlooked when problems take center stage. When was the last time you felt like a team? This is about consciously recognizing these resources again and deliberately strengthening them.

Insights remain meaningless if they do not carry over into everyday life. Which small changes make a lasting difference? With concrete exercises, we provide you with tools to keep what you’ve worked on alive at home.

The focus of this seminar is not on sexuality. If sexual concerns are central, sexual therapy may be more appropriate.

Additionally, couples who are in the process of separating may not benefit fully from this seminar. Depending on your situation, regular couples therapy or separation counseling could be more suitable.

Our two seminar leaders have years of experience as couples therapists and will be happy to guide you through the day and provide food for thought at key moments. They know the tools and are happy to help you achieve a happy and functioning partnership.